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Lessons in Submission

Things have been a bit amiss lately.  Kids are back in school, both of us are incredibly busy with work, friendships and starting a new business venture; there just hasn’t been much time to focus on us or our domestic discipline goals and commitments.  When we are practicing and being consistent, we are both better for it.  When it slowly starts to fall off, we both slowly start to feel it until it is stifling to consider going forward without getting back to these basics.  

We have obviously reached that point.  JP asked me to come up with some ideas for a new format and ideas for 21 days of submission – role adjustment & submission training.  Below are the things I have come up with so far.  When we finalize a plan and I have developed the “token bank,” I will repost.  If anyone has any ideas or specific things that work for them, please comment and let me know!  Thanks in advance.  

Truly humbled,

Pink

21 DAYS – RENEWAL 1

The next 21 days will be used to reset our perameters, set new goals and reach new heights in our DD – D/s relationship.  I propose the following ideas/actions for use in our renewed 21 Days of Submission & Role Adjustment.

Exercises:

ME

1.  Tokens of Submission

Each day I will “give or perform” one act of submission that can be chosen from a “Token Bank,” that I will provide or as assigned by you.  This doesn’t limit the activities that can be assigned, it just creates a standing list up front.  *If any issue will prevent me from completing this token on any given day, I will let you know as soon as the issue arises.

2.  DD Binder – Create a tabbed binder that will serve as a storage space for any documents we create, assignments/essays I complete, progress logs from weekly review meetings, etc.

3.  Assignments – Essays, writing exercises or any other type of higher-level thinking exercises that are assigned in advance with due dates.  These exercises should serve to replace or added in addition to journaling, but with a focus on things you want to work on, things you want to learn about me, or things you want me to research, study or provide a view-oriented essay on.  This will give you all kinds of fun opportunities to get me focused on digging deeper, thinking more about us and studying the art of submission.

4.  Implement Inventory

(Due by X-X-XX assigned date)

Photograph and Document Implements.  Arrange by category in a 3 ring binder.  Provide pain scale rating and accurate recommendations for use (i.e., best for punishments due to strong sting and intense thud.  OR – perfect for maintenance; encourages focus, but doesn’t hurt severely enough for punishment.  OR – can be used lightly as a toy or for light maintenance, but  used with any amount of real force or medium force for an extended time, this implement should be reserved for only the worst of punishments.) 

5.  Fantasy Fiction Fridays

Every Friday 3500 – 5000 word literotica short story due to JP.  He chooses the topic 7 days in advance, I write the story.  Due by noon (by email) each Friday.

YOU

Develop confidence building exercises, tokens of submission and assignments

These can include a wide variety of things.  Ideas are: written assignments; poetry, artistic renderings, research, scavenger hunts, mundane tasks (that need to be done – not just to be mundane for the hell of it), sexual favors, role-definition discipline spankings, etc.

2.  Weekly Review

Conduct a weekly review every Sunday at 8 PM.  Kids in bed, ready for bed ourselves by 8 PM…we meet to discuss the week, the rules, the good and bad and what can and will be improved.  We review the calendar for the following week and add to it if necessary.  Schedule maintenance and any other activities, discuss any feelings or suggestions.

3.  Maintenance – Develop and stick to daily maintenance schedule to include maintenance of discipline and submission.  Geared toward success and love.

US

RULES AND FOCUSES

Work with me to address a list of 2 or 3 MAJOR categories to work on during the 21 days.  Keeping the list shorter helps to ensure success and follow-through.  Major categories could be things like MONEY and HOUSEKEEPING or PROCRASTINATING and NEW BUSINESS.  Or whatever.  We will work together to define that list, and then we can think of specific rules and exercises.

Top Ten Reasons

Each of us write down our top ten reasons for enjoying our DD – D/s position.  For instance, Me

#10 – I am a woman and you are a man, it feels natural and flows into our intimacy and bond as a couple for me to submit to you physically, mentally, sexually, and spiritually.

2.  Lists of Preferences

A learning activity focused on our own preferences and how we can better meet each others needs through understanding preferences.

-Each will develop a list of preferences…list 10-15 things that really matter (irritate you, hurt your feelings, frustrate you, etc.) and how you would prefer they be handled/dealt with/overcome.  This will only be helpful if done in a constructive and realistic way.  These lists will be kept and referred to.

3.  Love Inspiring Characteristics

A list of five to ten most incredible things we have learned about each other since beginning  domestic discipline or in the last year.

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Shutting Up

Why is it so hard for me to shut up sometimes?  The same question could be asked of others, for sure, but I am asking only as it pertains to me.  

Why is it that when I am pissed off, I can’t just be quiet and talk about it later?  Where is my submissive nature and desire to promote peace?  Absent.  

There are two channels that definitely contribute to my inability to stick a sock in it.

1.  Being Tired…a lack of sleep is my worst enemy.

2. Emotional Stress…we aren’t talking regular stress.  This is the kind of stress that is a direct result of dealing with stresses that concern friends and family…health,  safety and well being.  

With the kids starting back to school and some family concerns looming, I am not at my best.  

After failing to keep my mouth shut for the last time (there is only one last time every time….you just never know which time it will be), I got a lecture and 15 swats with the Chechen.  5-6 were of punishment strength and nearly made me cry because I knew I shouldn’t have argued.

I really need to learn to shut the chute and hum Christmas carols or something. 

Although, tonight a similar situation occurred,  but I shut up even while emotionally stressed and tired.  Hopefully it was recognized for effort and obedience.  No Christmas carol hum-along necessary.  

Once again humbled,

-Pink

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Naughty and Negative

I recently had a birthday, like…within the last week.  I got 30+ swats with the Chechen.  They were playful birthday spanks, but had a nice sting to them as well.  It was a fun morning.

I have been doing freelance graphic work for an e-commerce company for almost a year.  Sometimes it is so much fun, but most of the time, the fun cannot overshadow the extreme shadiness of our owner.  He doesn’t seem to wrong our customers in any way.  My ethical barometer definitely has a point of no return and defrauding people is the point of no return. I can still tolerate being there.  However, sometimes his chauvinistic, womanizing behavior is repulsive.  My birthday was one of those days.

I had lunch with a one of the sales reps and the day floated by with some crappy comments from the owner.  The day just wasn’t great.  Friends had forgotten my birthday, it just didn’t seem special.

From the moment I woke up that morning I had a crappy attitude.  It is indeed that time of the month and I can’t seem to shake the negativity during this ‘period’ of time.  Maybe some of you ladies have some suggestions as to how one can remain submissive and sweet and humble when their uterus is about to explode and freaky chemicals are causing bratty explosions of atomic proportions.

I owe him an apology for my seriously negative attitude.  I have been selfish and deserve a bit of a go ’round with a firm implement.  JP is headed to Vegas next week for a conference.  I am sure that before he goes, he will give me the love and discipline that I need.

So even though I am starting to feel the push of maturity nudge out the remainder of my youth, I have never been more engaged or satisfied in our marriage.  I have never felt that our mutual respect for one another was greater or that our interest in being seriously considerate of each other was more deeply rooted.

So, JP, Sir…I love you so much.  I am sorry that I have allowed my negative emotions to rule my attitude.  I am sorry that I took my birthday so personally when I know you have a lot of things going on right now and are making every effort to move our family in the right direction.  I respect you so much and can’t imagine that growing older will be anything but amazing as long as I have you.

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In other news, Last weekend was a pretty amazing time.  The closeness and intimacy experienced through living D/s and DD provide a level of erotic fire and hyper-sensuality to our relationship.  Sometimes, I throw my arms around him, fully clothed, and drink in the love and respect that I feel for him – squeezing hard to feel his rugged manliness envelop me.  Other times, I lay back and let him extract the magic that he build in me and cultivates through each tender kiss, each stern glance and every thwack of the paddle that he bestows.  This is no lie, I promise…last weekend, I had over 80 mind blowing orgasms. There are so many times since beginning domestic discipline that once he gets me started, they just keep coming.  😉

I am so thankful for my man, my life and my future.  I have so much on the horizon to look forward to and I feel fortunate.  And humbled.

– Pink.

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