I was talking to a friend recently, and she asked me what I meant by “I like to serve him.” Excellent point. So, what is “service,” to me? I have been doing a lot of reading lately. Getting in touch with the inner-me.
Service is, by definition, many different things. The type of service that I am referring to is serving another; in this case, JP. It is the act or acts of providing accommodations to make his life easier. This includes:
-Domestic services – i.e. cooking, cleaning, bartending, shuffling the kids to and fro (with love and care), secretarial duties, making appointments, hostessing, etc. ***Disclaimer: I have many opportunities to improve in this area. Always trying.***
-Luxury Services – i.e., massages, manicures, pedicures, removing his shoes and socks when he gets home, shining his shoes, sucking his cock while he reads or watches football, serving his food to him; These are areas of strength.
-Sexual Services – Being attune to his needs first, submitting to his desires, being ready and open to advances at any time; anywhere (but trusting him enough to not get us put on “The Registry,” for indecency), learning to please him just the way he likes, etc. – also an area of strength.
-Respectful Service – this has more to do with obedience, but if you really think about it, it is a service. Being mindful, watching tones, not arguing, acting within the rules and protocols of the relationship, obey first – ask questions later (only if you genuinely trust your partner), putting aside brattiness, fostering love and not contempt, etc. **This is an area in which I could certainly improve, however, I do try very hard to keep my cool.
Obviously, so many of these things overlap. The different aspects of service to Sir, are to me, one large part of my submission to Him. There isn’t anything on that list that makes me feel degraded, weak or opressed. It simply gives me the feeling that I am striving to give the best of me to my Husband, every day. Somedays are better than others, but I always sincerely try. As much as this is a part of our D/s relationship, most of those things are not at all about kink…but about love and respect.
I do not serve because I am weak, I serve because it makes me strong.
I do not serve because I am in awe of you, I serve because you are in awe of me too.