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I was talking to a friend recently, and she asked me what I meant by “I like to serve him.”  Excellent point.  So, what is “service,” to me?  I have been doing a lot of reading lately.  Getting in touch with the inner-me.

Service is, by definition, many different things.  The type of service that I am referring to is serving another; in this case, JP.  It is the act or acts of providing accommodations to make his life easier.  This includes:

-Domestic services – i.e. cooking, cleaning, bartending, shuffling the kids to and fro (with love and care), secretarial duties, making appointments, hostessing, etc.  ***Disclaimer:  I have many opportunities to improve in this area.  Always trying.***

-Luxury Services – i.e., massages, manicures, pedicures, removing his shoes and socks when he gets home, shining his shoes, sucking his cock while he reads or watches football, serving his food to him; These are areas of strength.

-Sexual Services – Being attune to his needs first, submitting to his desires, being ready and open to advances at any time; anywhere (but trusting him enough to not get us put on “The Registry,” for indecency), learning to please him just the way he likes, etc. – also an area of strength.

-Respectful Service – this has more to do with obedience, but if you really think about it, it is a service.  Being mindful, watching tones, not arguing, acting within the rules and protocols of the relationship, obey first – ask questions later (only if you genuinely trust your partner), putting aside brattiness, fostering love and not contempt, etc.  **This is an area in which I could certainly improve, however, I do try very hard to keep my cool.

Obviously, so many of these things overlap.  The different aspects of service to Sir, are to me, one large part of my submission to Him.  There isn’t anything on that list that makes me feel degraded, weak or opressed.  It simply gives me the feeling that I am striving to give the best of me to my Husband, every day.  Somedays are better than others, but I always sincerely try.  As much as this is a part of our D/s relationship, most of those things are not at all about kink…but about love and respect.

-HumbledPink

I do not serve because I am weak, I serve because it makes me strong.

Mindfulness---Serving

I do not serve because I am in awe of you, I serve because you are in awe of me too.

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D/s – The Art of Checking

Checking…

A small, seductive detail that drives me wild.

When you are in the arms of someone you trust…someone who makes your soul flutter; there are certain things that drive you beyond erotic reason.  Things that he (or she) does that are seemingly so small, or such a granular part of an enormous process that it may escape the proper attention it deserves.  Here is one such element.

CHECKING?  WHAT THE EFF IS THAT?

I don’t know how everyone plays, and what little things really do it for everyone.  When I am getting a good girl spanking, or a playful naughty spanking, or the kind that is playful, but serious, chances are I am going to get hot and bothered.  Like, a 100% chance.  But, good spankings hurt and I do like to play a little bit of Damsel in Distress. A naughty girl should never love her chastisement!?!  Right?  Wrong.

Most submissive women are aroused by the acts of submission.  Use this as a great basis for baiting your lovely, submissive prey.  She knows she is wet.  You know she is wet.  I know cheesecake tastes good, but I always like to be 100% sure.

Imagine…you walk up behind her pert ass sticking up high in the air.  Or perhaps she stands seductively, bound at the wrists and ankles and you walk up behind her and cup her breast and whisper in her ear.  Whispering in her ear is its own sexy little thing, but, I can’t get distracted.

You say something to the effect of, “Well, we better check to see if your naughty little pussy is wet,” or, “Oh…did that spanking/flogging/paddling get you all wet & excited?  Let’s just check and see!”  Then seductively slide your fingertip/s between her legs and over her slit, dipping in just enough to feel the silky, creamy arousal that your dominance invoked.

Slowly, slide your fingers back out and whisper in her ear, “Oh…you are soaking wet.  That’s a good girl.  I love it when your pussy (or whatever delightful term does it for you) gets so wet for me.”

On the converse, maybe she loves a little shame and playful humiliation.  Something like, “Uh-oh.  Your naughty little pussy got soaking wet from that spanking!   Now I’m going to have to really punish you!”

OR – there is always the taboo and yet infamously arousing chef trick.  You say, “Your hot little pussy got very wet from that spanking.  See it?” Show her the glistening arousal on your fingertip and make her respond… “Yes, Sir.”  

Examination -  Image credit: http://www.pinterest.com/DaddyDomJB/checking/

Examination –
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Look back at your fingertip.  “Yes, I made it.  It looks sweet, delicious.  I think you should taste it.”  Before you even finish that sentence your fingertips will hopefully have made their way into her eager, salivating mouth that is always anxious to please her Master.  Feeling the soft swirl of her tongue on your fingertips as she tastes her own arousal will serve to remind you both that your cock will soon take the place of your fingers.

Now is a great time to resume the spanking…or gently force her to her knees to start adoring your cock.

Another fine scenario…She’s cooking dinner in a dress or skirt.  You walk up behind her and put your arm around her middle in between her chest and stomach. This makes it easy for your arm to rise between her breasts for fondling.  Perhaps run your hand up to her throat so you can bend her neck back as you speak and touch; make her feel the full force of your dominance. From the front or back (switch it up!) use your other hand to part her legs, slowly working your way into probing deeper while you say softly, “Time for me to check to see if that hot little pussy is dripping wet like I think it is.”  At this point, it probably will be.  Take it from there.  Is she naughty for being wet?  Or is she a good, good girl for having become aroused so quickly in your presence?  Either way, tell her.  Then take her.  Or – make her wait.  Sometimes the best aphrodisiac!

If she is not dripping wet with anticipation, say something like, “Hmmm, you’re not wet yet.  I’m surprised because I know your little pussy is almost always begging for attention.  I will be back in 2 minutes.  If you still aren’t wet, I will spank you.  I know that by the time your ass is bright red, you’ll be soaking wet.”

Just some ideas and a window into some things that turn me on.

By the way, submissives crave your loving dominance; physically and psychologically.  Use them together at the same time?  Watch out.  😉

-HumbledPink

Hot Dominance = Epic Explosions

Hot Dominance = Epic Explosions

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