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I was talking to a friend recently, and she asked me what I meant by “I like to serve him.”  Excellent point.  So, what is “service,” to me?  I have been doing a lot of reading lately.  Getting in touch with the inner-me.

Service is, by definition, many different things.  The type of service that I am referring to is serving another; in this case, JP.  It is the act or acts of providing accommodations to make his life easier.  This includes:

-Domestic services – i.e. cooking, cleaning, bartending, shuffling the kids to and fro (with love and care), secretarial duties, making appointments, hostessing, etc.  ***Disclaimer:  I have many opportunities to improve in this area.  Always trying.***

-Luxury Services – i.e., massages, manicures, pedicures, removing his shoes and socks when he gets home, shining his shoes, sucking his cock while he reads or watches football, serving his food to him; These are areas of strength.

-Sexual Services – Being attune to his needs first, submitting to his desires, being ready and open to advances at any time; anywhere (but trusting him enough to not get us put on “The Registry,” for indecency), learning to please him just the way he likes, etc. – also an area of strength.

-Respectful Service – this has more to do with obedience, but if you really think about it, it is a service.  Being mindful, watching tones, not arguing, acting within the rules and protocols of the relationship, obey first – ask questions later (only if you genuinely trust your partner), putting aside brattiness, fostering love and not contempt, etc.  **This is an area in which I could certainly improve, however, I do try very hard to keep my cool.

Obviously, so many of these things overlap.  The different aspects of service to Sir, are to me, one large part of my submission to Him.  There isn’t anything on that list that makes me feel degraded, weak or opressed.  It simply gives me the feeling that I am striving to give the best of me to my Husband, every day.  Somedays are better than others, but I always sincerely try.  As much as this is a part of our D/s relationship, most of those things are not at all about kink…but about love and respect.

-HumbledPink

I do not serve because I am weak, I serve because it makes me strong.

Mindfulness---Serving

I do not serve because I am in awe of you, I serve because you are in awe of me too.

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D/s – The Art of Checking

Checking…

A small, seductive detail that drives me wild.

When you are in the arms of someone you trust…someone who makes your soul flutter; there are certain things that drive you beyond erotic reason.  Things that he (or she) does that are seemingly so small, or such a granular part of an enormous process that it may escape the proper attention it deserves.  Here is one such element.

CHECKING?  WHAT THE EFF IS THAT?

I don’t know how everyone plays, and what little things really do it for everyone.  When I am getting a good girl spanking, or a playful naughty spanking, or the kind that is playful, but serious, chances are I am going to get hot and bothered.  Like, a 100% chance.  But, good spankings hurt and I do like to play a little bit of Damsel in Distress. A naughty girl should never love her chastisement!?!  Right?  Wrong.

Most submissive women are aroused by the acts of submission.  Use this as a great basis for baiting your lovely, submissive prey.  She knows she is wet.  You know she is wet.  I know cheesecake tastes good, but I always like to be 100% sure.

Imagine…you walk up behind her pert ass sticking up high in the air.  Or perhaps she stands seductively, bound at the wrists and ankles and you walk up behind her and cup her breast and whisper in her ear.  Whispering in her ear is its own sexy little thing, but, I can’t get distracted.

You say something to the effect of, “Well, we better check to see if your naughty little pussy is wet,” or, “Oh…did that spanking/flogging/paddling get you all wet & excited?  Let’s just check and see!”  Then seductively slide your fingertip/s between her legs and over her slit, dipping in just enough to feel the silky, creamy arousal that your dominance invoked.

Slowly, slide your fingers back out and whisper in her ear, “Oh…you are soaking wet.  That’s a good girl.  I love it when your pussy (or whatever delightful term does it for you) gets so wet for me.”

On the converse, maybe she loves a little shame and playful humiliation.  Something like, “Uh-oh.  Your naughty little pussy got soaking wet from that spanking!   Now I’m going to have to really punish you!”

OR – there is always the taboo and yet infamously arousing chef trick.  You say, “Your hot little pussy got very wet from that spanking.  See it?” Show her the glistening arousal on your fingertip and make her respond… “Yes, Sir.”  

Examination -  Image credit: http://www.pinterest.com/DaddyDomJB/checking/

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Look back at your fingertip.  “Yes, I made it.  It looks sweet, delicious.  I think you should taste it.”  Before you even finish that sentence your fingertips will hopefully have made their way into her eager, salivating mouth that is always anxious to please her Master.  Feeling the soft swirl of her tongue on your fingertips as she tastes her own arousal will serve to remind you both that your cock will soon take the place of your fingers.

Now is a great time to resume the spanking…or gently force her to her knees to start adoring your cock.

Another fine scenario…She’s cooking dinner in a dress or skirt.  You walk up behind her and put your arm around her middle in between her chest and stomach. This makes it easy for your arm to rise between her breasts for fondling.  Perhaps run your hand up to her throat so you can bend her neck back as you speak and touch; make her feel the full force of your dominance. From the front or back (switch it up!) use your other hand to part her legs, slowly working your way into probing deeper while you say softly, “Time for me to check to see if that hot little pussy is dripping wet like I think it is.”  At this point, it probably will be.  Take it from there.  Is she naughty for being wet?  Or is she a good, good girl for having become aroused so quickly in your presence?  Either way, tell her.  Then take her.  Or – make her wait.  Sometimes the best aphrodisiac!

If she is not dripping wet with anticipation, say something like, “Hmmm, you’re not wet yet.  I’m surprised because I know your little pussy is almost always begging for attention.  I will be back in 2 minutes.  If you still aren’t wet, I will spank you.  I know that by the time your ass is bright red, you’ll be soaking wet.”

Just some ideas and a window into some things that turn me on.

By the way, submissives crave your loving dominance; physically and psychologically.  Use them together at the same time?  Watch out.  😉

-HumbledPink

Hot Dominance = Epic Explosions

Hot Dominance = Epic Explosions

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Lessons in Submission

Things have been a bit amiss lately.  Kids are back in school, both of us are incredibly busy with work, friendships and starting a new business venture; there just hasn’t been much time to focus on us or our domestic discipline goals and commitments.  When we are practicing and being consistent, we are both better for it.  When it slowly starts to fall off, we both slowly start to feel it until it is stifling to consider going forward without getting back to these basics.  

We have obviously reached that point.  JP asked me to come up with some ideas for a new format and ideas for 21 days of submission – role adjustment & submission training.  Below are the things I have come up with so far.  When we finalize a plan and I have developed the “token bank,” I will repost.  If anyone has any ideas or specific things that work for them, please comment and let me know!  Thanks in advance.  

Truly humbled,

Pink

21 DAYS – RENEWAL 1

The next 21 days will be used to reset our perameters, set new goals and reach new heights in our DD – D/s relationship.  I propose the following ideas/actions for use in our renewed 21 Days of Submission & Role Adjustment.

Exercises:

ME

1.  Tokens of Submission

Each day I will “give or perform” one act of submission that can be chosen from a “Token Bank,” that I will provide or as assigned by you.  This doesn’t limit the activities that can be assigned, it just creates a standing list up front.  *If any issue will prevent me from completing this token on any given day, I will let you know as soon as the issue arises.

2.  DD Binder – Create a tabbed binder that will serve as a storage space for any documents we create, assignments/essays I complete, progress logs from weekly review meetings, etc.

3.  Assignments – Essays, writing exercises or any other type of higher-level thinking exercises that are assigned in advance with due dates.  These exercises should serve to replace or added in addition to journaling, but with a focus on things you want to work on, things you want to learn about me, or things you want me to research, study or provide a view-oriented essay on.  This will give you all kinds of fun opportunities to get me focused on digging deeper, thinking more about us and studying the art of submission.

4.  Implement Inventory

(Due by X-X-XX assigned date)

Photograph and Document Implements.  Arrange by category in a 3 ring binder.  Provide pain scale rating and accurate recommendations for use (i.e., best for punishments due to strong sting and intense thud.  OR – perfect for maintenance; encourages focus, but doesn’t hurt severely enough for punishment.  OR – can be used lightly as a toy or for light maintenance, but  used with any amount of real force or medium force for an extended time, this implement should be reserved for only the worst of punishments.) 

5.  Fantasy Fiction Fridays

Every Friday 3500 – 5000 word literotica short story due to JP.  He chooses the topic 7 days in advance, I write the story.  Due by noon (by email) each Friday.

YOU

Develop confidence building exercises, tokens of submission and assignments

These can include a wide variety of things.  Ideas are: written assignments; poetry, artistic renderings, research, scavenger hunts, mundane tasks (that need to be done – not just to be mundane for the hell of it), sexual favors, role-definition discipline spankings, etc.

2.  Weekly Review

Conduct a weekly review every Sunday at 8 PM.  Kids in bed, ready for bed ourselves by 8 PM…we meet to discuss the week, the rules, the good and bad and what can and will be improved.  We review the calendar for the following week and add to it if necessary.  Schedule maintenance and any other activities, discuss any feelings or suggestions.

3.  Maintenance – Develop and stick to daily maintenance schedule to include maintenance of discipline and submission.  Geared toward success and love.

US

RULES AND FOCUSES

Work with me to address a list of 2 or 3 MAJOR categories to work on during the 21 days.  Keeping the list shorter helps to ensure success and follow-through.  Major categories could be things like MONEY and HOUSEKEEPING or PROCRASTINATING and NEW BUSINESS.  Or whatever.  We will work together to define that list, and then we can think of specific rules and exercises.

Top Ten Reasons

Each of us write down our top ten reasons for enjoying our DD – D/s position.  For instance, Me

#10 – I am a woman and you are a man, it feels natural and flows into our intimacy and bond as a couple for me to submit to you physically, mentally, sexually, and spiritually.

2.  Lists of Preferences

A learning activity focused on our own preferences and how we can better meet each others needs through understanding preferences.

-Each will develop a list of preferences…list 10-15 things that really matter (irritate you, hurt your feelings, frustrate you, etc.) and how you would prefer they be handled/dealt with/overcome.  This will only be helpful if done in a constructive and realistic way.  These lists will be kept and referred to.

3.  Love Inspiring Characteristics

A list of five to ten most incredible things we have learned about each other since beginning  domestic discipline or in the last year.

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